BEYOND THE SURFACE Aligned friendships. (non negotiable must have's)

Setting up a good routine for your mental heath goes far beyond the surface.

We are all great with setting up our work schedule and making time for our friends on the weekend for a drink, But what about what the soul is calling for.

Too many times i see people walking into our space saying they are tired and not performing. I ask them what they did over the weekend and most the time its catching up with friends or prioritising their social schedule before their mental load or capacity.

What if we made our mental load and rest time a non negotiable before our social schedule so we can can give the week ahead exactly what it needs to perform at 100%.

Im not just talking performing in the gym or at work I'm talking a full and complete mind body and soul experience to perform completely from a place of full rejuvenation.

Before doing this my priorities were out the window in order to fill someone else's cup.

Thoughts would run through my head,

" If i don't go and see my friends what will i miss out on?" ( Insert FOMO) !

"I better go out because they might think i have a problem with them."

"Ill just sleep in tomorrow".

"At least the kids will have a play and get out of the house"

BLA BLA BLA

It took me a while to get out of this head space but what i realised is soul friendships and the 5 people you spend most my time with need to align with my values and whats important to me.

Growth and outgrowing your old self can feel lonely. You can feel like you have nothing in common with the friends you once had. With this along comes the shame and guilt plus the grief of not feeling like you belong or are apart of something anymore.

This reels people back into their old state of being and doesn't allow the growth and extension you are looking for.

ITS OK to feel like your goals and new state of being doesn't align with who you once were. It means that something bigger is out there for you. It means that the person you were has done its job to get you where you are meant to be.

The fear of loosing people is completely normal. We are wired for love and connection. When we feel that being taken away we go straight into the grief that keeps us pulled back like a chain around our neck.

But what if you taking that leap of faith allow the others to catch up?

What if you being the "EXAMPLE" gives the crowd the inspiration they just might need?

Being brave enough to look at what is really going to serve you and your future self isn't for the faint hearted. It takes grit, determination and strong will power to say NO to things and prioritise what your soul body needs in order for you to push through to that higher state of being.

I want to look at the 5 people that you are spending your time with.

I want you to write a list of all the inspiring things they do. Do their conversations fill you up or drain you? Do they want you to be better and live better?

Do they want more or want to be better?

When you say No to things does the guilt trip come or do they full except you and love you no matter what.?

Loving boundaries doesn't mean your a shit friend or you don't have time for them.

It means that you are prioritising your state of being and what you need to perform at the best state of being you can be.

NON NEGOTIABLES-

On the weekends do you have time to clean your space?

Do you make time for stillness and being with yourself?

What energy are you implementing this week?

Are your weekends dedicated to family time or partner time?

Do you have a common goal that you are working on that your friends can join in with that is soul nourishing and cup filling worthy?

What are you going to set up that doesn't put you on the back end of fighting for time, rest and performing at your best?

Once this hits i promise you it's the game changer you are looking for.

Intentionally set up your weekend of rest for the person you set out to be in your life.

If this doesn't align with the crowd you will call in deeper friendships that do!

Imagine that, a soul group of friends that have the same drive, goals and self worth without competing or outdoing each other. That hanging out looks like deep conversations, Beautiful early breakfasts on Sunday with no hangover only to come home to a clean space and full nights rest and intentional time with your family. Lifting and encouraging each other on their wins and having full support that reaching each others goals is a big win to celebrate..

YES PLEASE